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The Earring

 

For many years I had been teaching people that when you cannot find something, instead of telling yourself, “I can’t find it; I don’t know where it is,” feverishly looking for it, bemoaning that you’ve lost it, berating yourself for losing it, that you tell yourself instead something like, “I know exactly where it is, yes I do!” Or just something like “it’ll show up!” And, you stop looking for it.
For many years I had been teaching people that when you cannot find something, instead of telling yourself, “I can’t find it; I don’t know where it is,” feverishly looking for it, bemoaning that you’ve lost it, berating yourself for losing it, that you tell yourself instead something like, “I know exactly where it is, yes I do!” Or just something like “it’ll show up!” And, you stop looking for it.
For many years I had been teaching people that when you cannot find something, instead of telling yourself, “I can’t find it; I don’t know where it is,” feverishly looking for it, bemoaning that you’ve lost it, berating yourself for losing it, that you tell yourself instead something like, “I know exactly where it is, yes I do!” Or just something like “it’ll show up!” And, you stop looking for it.


Feeling Critical or Criticized?

 

One of the most remarkable things you can do for both yourself and others is incredibly easy. Many years ago, Marsha, one of my dearest friends and colleague who in 1984 told me to just go take Reiki, that I was supposed to, just go do it, and I am so so grateful for that, taught me this: When you are feeling critical or criticized, run through your head the words, “I love you just the way you are, I love me just the way I am.” Do this 2 or 3 times. It works miracles. You do not have to love the person, like the person, or even know the person.  You don’t think it with feeling as if you believe it; you just run the words.

A couple of examples in my life: My first husband used to like to stay up late watching television. This was a very long time ago, before I learned to be assertive. We had a small home so  there I was, lying in bed not able to sleep. Rather than going out and asking  would he please turn it down, I was totally annoyed at how inconsiderate he was being, thinking about what a jerk he was. And then I remembered, and ran twice through my head directed towards him, “I love you just the way you are, I love me just the way I am…” The next thing I knew I was waking up after a very sound sleep, feeling refreshed. I do not know if he turned it down, or if I just fell asleep.  In fact, had I been sitting on the couch watching it with him, I probably would have fallen asleep. It was not the noise that was keeping me awake; it was my own irritation.