The Earrings and Lifeposted May 10, 2021
The Earrings… and Life
For many years I had been teaching people that when you cannot find something, instead of telling yourself, “I can’t find it; I don’t know where it is,” feverishly looking for it, bemoaning that you’ve lost it, berating yourself for losing it, that you tell yourself instead something like, “I know exactly where it is, yes I do!” Or just something like “it’ll show up!” And, then you stop looking for it. It will just show up within about ten minutes if it’s anywhere in your environment. People are flabbergasted at how well this works. They just find the object when they pick up something else, or just go to the object without thinking about it. One of my clients told me she uses “God knows. God shows,” and that works for her.
So 24 years ago, my daughter Katia gave me a beautiful, unique pair of earrings for my 50th birthday. Three years later, I lost one. Neither of us knew who made them, so it was irreplaceable. I put the other earring on my dresser and would look at it occasionally, bemoaning the fact that I had lost this earring and would never be able to replace it. Sixteen years ago, we moved from Madison, Wisconsin to Columbia, South Carolina. Again, I put the lone earring on my dresser and continued to berate myself for having lost the other one. I would say or think things like “I am so sad! It was so careless of me to lose that earring; how stupid!”
About 10 years ago, I looked at the earring, and suddenly said, “Hey, this is silly. I know exactly where that other earring is, Yes, I do! Thank You, God!” I proceeded to go upstairs to my healing room and decided to dust my bookcases. If you knew me, you would know that this was not in character.
On one of the shelves is The Book of Runes, a wonderful divination book by Ralph Blum with just great philosophical advice, by the way, and there were three bags of Runestones on the shelf by it. I had tended to use only one of the bags but happen to have three. As I dusted, one of the other bags fell off the shelf onto the floor. Out fell two Runestones and the earring. Ten years missing. Ten minutes back. My having declared with full faith, enthusiasm, and gratefulness that I knew where it was, it took the usual ten minutes to show up.
And several years ago, Katia had been visiting me from Chicago and mentioned that she had misplaced her keys about 3 weeks prior. Luckily, her partner had another set. When she went home, her dad and stepmom came to visit from India. She complained to them about having lost her keys. Her stepmom said, “Aren’t you psychic like your mom?”
Katia replied, “If I were my mom, I would just say, ‘I know exactly where they are; yes, I do!’ and stop looking!” About 10 minutes later, there was a knock on her door. Her landlady told her to hold out her hand. And dropped the keys into it. Her stepmom said, “I finally get to see the magic!”
And a couple of days ago, I finally decided to give up on trying to find my lost favorite Fossil watch. I had had it for probably 15 years, lost it once long ago, and when I had stopped looking for it, of course, it showed up again. I don’t remember how. I lost it again about a year ago. Since then, silly me, I have on occasion searched… drawers, purses, suitcases, closets, under this and that. Two days ago, I said, “Oh well, it’s gone,” so I stopped looking. And, I decided that after I would do a bunch of things, I would go online to Fossil.com and see if I could replace it. I went online and the watch was no longer being sold.
Later that day, I decided to just rest for a while. I sat on my side of the couch next to the end table. To relax, take a breather. And there, laying on the table, was my favorite watch. I asked my husband, who had not known I was missing a watch and had been searching for it for a year, where had he found it. He said he had decided to do some spring cleaning in our upstairs larger bedroom, was moving some things here and there, and out it fell onto the floor.
These are examples of our co-creating our lives. When we focus with feeling on something being missing, sure enough, it is missing. And, when instead with faith, trust, and gratefulness, we claim that we know that we know where it is, we do. Or if we finally give up the focusing on the loss of it, and we stop looking, it often will just show up. It might be earrings, glasses, important papers, keys. And it might be love, a career or whatever else it is you have been desperately looking for.
I was amazed when I found the earring. Even though I had proclaimed to the Universe, to the Divine, that I absolutely knew where it was, still I was amazed when it showed up. I am constantly amazed. And I’m amazed that I’m amazed. You’d think with constancy, one would just consider the extraordinary ordinary. I believe that my continuously being awed keeps awesomeness gracing my life.
When you find yourself being all upset about missing or lacking something, continuing to complain about and bemoan about what you are missing or lacking, focusing on what is wrong in your life… keeps you stuck in that situation. Our thoughts are things. They go out into the world and get reflected back to us. What we focus on with feeling, either positive or negative, truly we bring to us, even if unconsciously. And, that may be something we want, or something we don’t. So consciously proclaim your affirmation/gratefulness prayer with a smile on your face, with power, passion, and with total faith, as if it were completely true and you are so grateful for it.
And, then, equally important, just… stop looking! And go do something else. You will be amazed.
For fun, do this:
If you have never done this before, you will really be surprised. And, if you have done it and forgotten about it, do it again. Whenever you are out driving, and you need to park somewhere close to where you are going, think the thought or say out loud, “I now have a perfect parking space, yes, I do! Thank You, God!” (or whatever term feels right to you.) Say this out loud with positive feeling, with power, and with gratefulness. And if you want to leave out the last phrase, that’s fine. If you exclaim that you have a perfect parking space, and then claim it with power, that’ll work.
As you are pulling up to near where you need to be, just be aware, take notice. Either, it is already open and waiting for you, or someone is pulling out as you approach. Your space will just show up.
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Many Thanks and Blessings, Susan Grey